Pre-Marital Counseling Questionnaire

Topic: Communication & Conflict Resolution

1. Do you easily talk about your feelings?

If so, are there any exceptions?

If not, why not?

2. Does your partner easily talk about his/her feelings?

If so, are there any exceptions?

If not, how do you deal with it?

3. Have you noticed that there are times when it is difficult to communicate with your partner?

If so, when are those times?

4. How do you and your partner resolve conflicts or disagreements?

5. Have you had any major fights so far?

If so, what were they about?

6. Would you be in favor of seeking professional counseling as a help to your communication skills?

If so, when would you do this??

If not, why not?

7. Who would you talk to if you were having a major conflict with your spouse?

8. Are there currently any unresolved issues in your relationship?

9. Given the high divorce rate, do you think you have more of a chance than others of remaining married for the rest of your lives? Why or why not?

10. Do you feel safe expressing your feelings to your partner?

11. Are you comfortable with the way your partner expresses anger?

12. How would you describe your ability to communicate with your parents?

When you were a child?

When you were a teenager?

Now?

13. What kind of temper/mood does your partner have and can you live with it?

14. Are there some habits that your partner has that you don’t like?

15. What are some things that your partner does that embarrasses you and what will happen if they do not change?